1. Accept yourself.
This is the very first thing I did and the most difficult one because I was brought up in a society where being fat is almost like having a disease. Men avoided me and didn't wanna be seen with me and I was always mocked and bullied ever since I was a kid. One guy that made me really accept who I am is Gabriel "Fluffy" Iglesias, the comedian. He said that people told him he is gonna die early and have fat-related diseases and his response was, we are all gonna die someday. No one is getting out of this alive (aside from people during the rapture) and he would live his life the way he sees would make him happy. If he's gonna die stuffed with cake and wine then that's how he wanted to go anyway. I found myself yelling "Amen!" to that. So I told my parents who are the people who bully me most about my fat body that I have already accepted myself. I tried to lose weight hundreds of times but not eating sweet stuff really just isn't a life worth living for me. So first step, accept that you are fat because after that will come confidence.
2. Be confident.
It is easier said than done but it is worth it. How to be confident? Watch positive videos. Read on how to be confident. Practice the things you learn from those like walk with your head held high, be a fashionista (your own version of it), always put your hands on your hips and do the power pose, wear a big smile, look people in the eye, etc. There are lots of tips on how to be confident. Practice on this and soon you'll be an expert and you'll rock that sleeveless blouse. Wear yourself with pride. You are a beautiful person. Every single cell in your body is working 24/7 just to take care of you. They are only concerned of you. Own the space you're standing on. You are loved by God. Be confident. Why am I saying all this? Well, it will not only be good for you but because this is one of the things necessary to get a boyfriend.
3. Have a passion.
Be passionate about something. May it be baking, reading, comicbooks, make-up, your job, food, travelling, yoga. Anything. Be passionate about something or many things! My passion is Biology. I love living things specially the process on how they live like photosynthesis and metabolism. Find something to be passionate about. The next step will show you how to use this so you can get a boyfriend.
4. Put yourself out there.
After accepting yourself and being confident about yourself, no one will be able to destroy you. One quote said, "Know your weakness, wear it as an armor, so nobody can hurt you with it." Once you've established those 3 things above, you can now advertise your product (which is YOU). The people in your town, in your country, in your continent might or might not be the one for you so widen your horizon. I've learned that boys in my town (the ones I really liked) didn't like me. Yes it ruined my confidence a bit but I found out that if you advertise yourself (you can only do this if you're confident so don't skip 1 and 2), special people who are attracted to fat women called fat admirers (yes, there are such men) will be drawn to you and you can now pick whoever you like. I did this first by putting my number in texting sites. It was a trial and error. I did many steps before finding out that the best way to find a good match is through a dating site. The site I found that gave the best matches which is also free was OKCupid. (Go google it now girl). There are some sites specifically for big beautiful women like us but I didn't have any success there. I found my boyfriend in OKCupid and many others before. I have met some amazing guys there. So to put yourself out there if you are doing a profile, put your passions in. Market yourself. What about you do you like in yourself? OKC has these guide questions that make it really easy so I strongly recommend that site. Fair warning! You will meet assholes who will only want to have cybersex or phonesex with you. Out of 100 men you will message or message you, only one is worth your time. Learn to move on if you have met a man you like and turns out he is a liar and only likes you for your body. Leave that conversation, forgive yourself for ever opening your heart to that guy and go find another one. The right one is just around the corner. You can sulk, be sad, and cry about it but do not give up. Keep moving forward.
4. Have a standard.
"What kind of men do you like?" This is often the question men will ask you so it is best to have a standard. Men come in all shapes and sizes so YOU have to decide what YOU want to entertain. There have been times that I opened my heart to people I don't really like just because I'm lonely and they're the only ones showing interest. Don't do that. It will come biting you in the end. Be vigilant in your search. Know what you want and stick to it. I know it is hard specially when you're feeling lonely but keep true and law of attraction will give you what you want. My standard is a guy who's a Christian, tall, intelligent, financially capable, I can talk about anything to, matured, and a virgin. It is a very specific standard which is very hard to find but it is my standard and there were times when I accepted less coz I thought I shouldn't be picky, but girl, be picky. It is your right. You are the woman. You get to chose who you give your wonderful juicy self to! I eventually broke up with those guys that didn't fit my standards even if I really liked some of them. Now, after talking to maybe 500 guys (I didn't meet them, just talked online) I found the one. How? I saw that he liked my profile in OKCupid. I looked at his profile and liked his grammar and his goal of also trying to find the one. So I messaged him. He replied and the rest is history. Do not be afraid to message guys my fellow BBWs. Specially if he liked you first. This guy turned out to be everything on my standard. He is the one I have been looking for. Now we are very happy and the future looks bright.
There is someone out there made specifically for you. Believe it.
You can have yours too. Just accept yourself, be confident, have a passion, advertise yourself, and have a standard.
Of course there are more tiny bits to worry about but these are the basics. Try these out and tell me what happens in the comment section below!
Ciao sexy lady!
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